Can Women Be Friends With Each Other?
What is friendship? I'd say in general "No!" because typically female "friendship" is based on lies and pandering towards each other's feelings. When emotions speak to emotions there is no solution.
Psychology always fascinated me, I always wanted to understand WHY people behave a certain way, what factors impact that behavior and I’ve been constantly analyzing my own interactions with men and women. I can tell you one thing: men (not all men!) tend to be more honest than women and their honesty and directness frustrate women who can’t process and accept the truth. I’m not saying all women are incapable of facing the truth, I’m just saying that it’s not a super natural state for women, at least this is how feminism and some content creators want to view women, as if women are incapable of any rational thought. Most women today tend to live in their feelings and feminist propaganda really encourages unthoughtful behavior based on emotions in both men and women. So, you can see why women are more prone to listening to their deceitful hearts and anyone who tells them the things that they want to hear. Modern women especially love hearing sweet lies and they really get mad at the people who share the painful truth and constructive criticism with them. Ladies, remember, the truth doesn’t care about your feelings, but in your emotional world that you constructed for yourself relying on the delusions of older/other women and broken institutions, you have to live in your delusions because only in your brain can these delusions be true.
What also fascinates me is the amount of books written to educate men on how to be better men, how to improve their communication skills with women, how to be good at gaming women, how to f*ck pretty chick(s), how to make her/them fall in love with you, etc. Even in the Red Pill community, which promotes masculinity, strength and rational thinking for men, we can see a huge emphasis on improving men to be successful with women, everything sort of circulates around women, not the other way around. Women today don’t have any incentive to improve and work on themselves mentally nor physically because men already serve them and all women need to do is just exist and be themselves (dive in deeper into their emotions and delusions) observe how the world evolves around them and pick the winners. If you happen to know a few rational books about how women can improve their communication skills with men, please share them with me. Aside from feminist bullsh*t literature I honestly haven’t seen a lot of self-improving books for women. This is one of the reasons why I’m writing these articles for both women and men, but mostly for women. ;-) I hope that some women will start waking up and researching these topics that we talk about.
Ani-Red Pill, Red Pill and Pick Up Artists (PUAs) communities differently blame a man if a woman chooses to not engage with him or leave him: “it must be something that he did/said wrong, he didn’t serve the Milady well enough, he is not a provider, he can’t defend her physically, he is not emotionally available for her, he didn’t have a strong mental point of origin, he is not masculine enough, he is lacking masculine frame, he is a bad leader, he is lacking masculine skills, he is a man w*ore, he is just spinning plates, he is not serious”, etc. As you can see, all of these cases presume that women have no agency, they just sit and wait outside until men become better men. But the reality is that a woman can still choose to not engage or leave a perfectly fine man even if he does all the right things that all of the pills and/or ani-Red Pillers prescribe. There is literary nothing a man can do to prevent a woman who made up her mind from leaving/cheating on him because a woman can still do all these things without asking for man’s permission. Also, saying that it’s only a man’s fault in a way contradicts a popular belief about female hypergamy, where we say that “hypergamy is not a straight jacket” and different women value different things. If a woman values intelligence and stability with her current husband/(partner), she is not likely to cheat on this man with a better “Alpha guy who f*cks” better. (Rollo Tomassi) So, women can always choose to stay with the guy if they respect and love him or for comfort and monetary reasons. Some women can even try to live the “I want a cake and eat it too” lifestyle, where they will choose to stay in a marriage with the Beta provider man and f*ck an Alpha or a Tyrone dude. How a woman chooses to behave: cheating, being promiscuous or loyal to her husband/boyfriend is her choice, therefore she has agency to make decisions in her life. Some Red Pill prescriptions definitely help, but they are not a guarantee of success. Remember, guys, we can only control our own actions, but we have no control over other people’s actions.
All of these communities expect men to behave perfectly in their own ways. The premise is that if men follow all or some of the prescriptions, women will behave as expected and yes, there is a small chance of that, however, it’s also a fallacious argument because it implies that all men have to do is just be this “perfect man”, “be a big dog in the room”, “be a better Alpha man that all women want” and women will stay with you. If a woman still decides to leave that man, “let’s only blame men for the mistakes of both”as if a woman had nothing to do with it. It kind of reminds me of how church approaches the issues with the low marriage and high divorce rates: “just wife up these w*ores”. What do you think, guys?
We have multiple names for promiscuous women in the Manosphere: we call them “w*ores, harlots, 304’s, Only Fans girls, town bicycle, hooker, hustler, escort, prostitute, slut”, etc. A particularly popular term came to life, a “sex worker” that women who consider themselves as “sex professionals” call themselves and somehow in their mind it’s supposed to mean a different thing from the above terms. The most frustrating part is that these chicks are everywhere, they also infiltrated the Manosphere, the ONLY space where men could gather to discuss important issues WITHOUT (promiscuous) women! But what do we see now? We see “sex workers” on big panel shows and here is something that really bothers me: men who know better, who are supposed to be masculine and rational are buying into these women’s bullsh*t by trying to be friends with them and understand their excuses and cute sub-stories for their promiscuous behavior, they even justify these women’s decisions and help them double down on their entitlement and delusions by promoting and helping these women. Red Pill has significantly changed since I started consuming this kind of content (I’ve been in the Red Pill since 2019) and I shall admit, not for the best because I think that some popular Red Pill content creators have inconsistent frame, they sacrifice the initial purpose of Red Pill for clout and popularity to pander to delusional entitled women. Therefore it might appear that Red Pill is lacking morality and this is something that Nick, Steve Sandman and Plutarch H. have been talking about on The Resurgence of Sanity YouTube Channel. While Red Pill observations are neutral in nature and they are morally good because they reveal the truth, some of the applications are questionable, but again, you don’t have to follow these suggestions if you have different moral system.
Anyway, I got away from the initial topic. The lack of morality in anti-Red Pill and in the Red Pill community leads us to the idea that women do not have agency. Without acknowledgement that women have agency guys can’t hold women accountable because they only criticize men’s mindset and actions. Unlike all-knowing God, who doesn’t need morality, humans need moral principles (“ethos”) to follow. Some more stable moral principles require self-discipline for both parties (men and women) and we don’t see a lot of accountability and self-discipline it in the hook up culture which popular Red Pill has become a part of by helping w*ores get more clout, money and “infempendence”. For more details please check the recent video by The Resurgence of Sanity guys.
Many men say that women are incapable of thinking rationally. I’d say that women can always choose to operate with their neocortex, they can think rationally and not rely on their emotions, they just need to want to do it and restrain themselves from emotional stimuli. Currently, women don’t have the incentive to do so because everyone panders to them, even the guys in the Manosphere. Women get what they want from others through hysterics, feelings and emotions. Of course, rational thinking is not very common, but it can still happen and instead of motivating women to think critically our society encourages them to just be emotional. In fact, I would say that the more women think rationally, the more likely they are to take better thoughtful decisions that will lead them and everyone to better outcomes. Yet, somehow rational and critical thinking are not being promoted as female attributes in our society. I wonder why? Maybe if women thought of the possible consequences of their choices, they would not make as many stupid mistakes? Maybe not so many women would have become run through w*ores by taking thousands of miles of penises based on their tingles? So, why don’t some big content creators promote rational thinking for both men and women? I definitely see how some people, companies and institutions focus on using female emotionalism against women to get what they want from women: either sex or physical or ideological purchases that women buy. This hyper emphasis on feelings ruins rational thinking. Also, based on my observations, I would say that men are guilty of it too. Everyone seems to be emoting today and using sophistry against each other that essentially lead us to useless blood sport debates.
Coming back to the initial question whether women can be friends with each other or not. What do we mean by friendship? How do women view friendship? If it’s only validating their experiences and feelings, then I would say this is not a healthy kind of friendship because it’s based on lies and delusions. Women don’t want to upset each other, so they pander to each other because women value affirmations of their feelings. Notice, if you are a woman and you are talking to another woman, every time you ignore her feelings, she feels upset because in her mind you negate her feelings and experiences. She takes it very personally, she doesn’t like you. Women usually associate saying “no” to each other with being mean and nasty when in reality “no” could just be a correcting mechanism to challenge and adjust their train of thought and/or decisions. When men say “no” to each other and to women, they can still love, care and talk to each other, they don’t immediately dislike each other. For women it’s harder because when you are negating their feelings they tend to hate you and they are likely to use some snaky manipulation tactics against you behind your back. I think it’s because most women today are being raised by single mothers who happen to be “strong, independent women who need no men” and who demand “Princess Treatment” for themselves and this is what they teach their daughters. Add indocrination women get in schools, colleges, at work, media, church and you get entitled boss babes incapable of pair bonding with good men for long-term relationships. This entitled attitude starts very early. Weak simpy fathers don’t help the situation either. An entitled woman will take simple “No!” as a personal attack and she won’t allow the man/her husband to lead and correct her thoughts and actions.
You can’t convince a woman with feelings to change her attitude/behavior through reason. But, ladies, you can only solve problems when you hear and understand a reason (truth, “logos”, God). Women haven’t been taught how to process and regulate their own emotions, how to be accountable for their own choices unless they had a dominant masculine presence when they were growing up (it could be a biological father or a strong father figure). A lot of women today are lacking a father figure who would teach them self-discipline, accountability and emotional intelligence. Emotional Intelligence requires women to be the observers of their feelings and emotions. It requires them to stand over, observe and learn how to filter intense emotions and their own actions. It involves self-criticism, which modern women are unable to do because for their entire life all they were told was that they were “perfect and can do no wrong”. Women can learn to understand how they act, but it requires self-discipline and humility and also, ladies, if you don’t have a masculine dad or a strong father figure, it’s going to be much harder for you to figure it out because our messed up society calls masculinity toxic (DSM5) and it really doesn’t support the Red Pill, the only community that tries to build more rational and masculine men. But without simultaneously working on women, all of its efforts are kind of useless because it takes two parties to tango. Also keep in mind that important roles in the institutions are occupied by women.
Women who were raised by a single mother are lacking self-discipline, accountability, communication and rational thinking skills because they were never taught how to be critical thinkers, they were never challenged by their dads, they never learnt how to get out of their fee-fees and actually communicate their needs and desires in a modest way without guilt trapping and overpowering the other person. A man’s duty is to lead and (re)direct a woman from her feelings and emotions. A woman’s duty is to listen to a wiser, rational man who guides her. Now, how many women are willing to listen to what men have to say today?
When spoiled women grow up, instead of challenging their own beliefs, messages and assumptions, they double down on their delusions because it’s easier than actually working on your mindset and physicality. They only surround themselves with the “snaky” girlfriends and simps who lie to them about everything to make them feel good about themselves and their (irrational) choices therefore validating and justifying their stupid actions. I’ve never really had a lot of girlfriends and over the years I’ve lost a few friends for telling them the truth, so now I only talk to a few women and men who don’t take what I say personally, those who want to improve and those who don’t offload their constant emotional traumas on me. I love women who want to be challenged mentally and physically. I love a good respectful exchange of thoughts with women and men. I want to believe there are still a few women left who appreciate honesty instead of sweet lies and if it means that we’re going to challenge each other, I’m all for it.
Female friendship can exist, it just requires women to tell each other the truth and not get mad at each other when somebody tells the truth because this truth can sound mean and harsh, but it’s realistic and it can actually help women solve their problems. Since many women today prefer sweet lies and delusions, they will much rather choose to worship themselves and others with all of the feminist bullsh*t than making some considerable changes in their life to improve their own situation.
There is a difference between sympathy and empathy and feminism is desperately trying to unite the two. Paraphrasing Nick during our Saturday’s show: while sympathy is not lacking rational thinking: I can sympathize with your situation that you are in, but I’m not going to identify with your pain because I realize that you might have created this pain for yourself. Does it make sense? Empathy demands a blind compliance and identification with someone else’s feelings. Women want to make other women feel their pain and many women will pretend like they feel your pain, when in reality, they could care less about other women's problems because they have other things going on in their life. A person can only sort of identify with your feelings if he/she went through the same stuff/pain, which often times people will fake just to comfort you. So, why to lie to each other ? Coming back to the beginning, emotion can’t understand emotion, therefore emotions can’t offer rational solutions.
Ladies, only when you take ownership of your own actions and realize that you messed up, you can analyze the situation better and you can see how you got there. You can make better decisions in your life when you admit you were wrong. Without humility and a healthy amount of self-criticism (which will hopefully make you regret your choices and not feel great) you will keep making the same mistakes over and over again, you won’t learn anything. You should also watch the video about The Shame Cycle that Nick, Steve and Plutarch H. did. Remember that reality does not care about your feelings. Try to make decisions based on the objective facts around you. This is something that most of your girlfriends are not going to tell you because they care about your feelings, they want you to feel good and this “feeling good” will cost you later. They might even have the best intentions of helping you, but they can’t do it by lying to you. As long as you also care about your emotions, you will look for the confirmation bias to your feelings and beliefs, you will ignore the truth (reason, “logos”, God), your own stupid actions that have lead you to the bad experience. Instead of focusing on detecting the problem, acknowledging you messed up and finding solutions to that problem, you will be drowned in your fee-fees and delusions (Satin) that will prevent you from finding the actual solution and making better decisions. This is what we see with church and some content creators who shame men into marrying the 304s. Women don’t get to feel and experience the shame cycle to its full extent because they don’t face the consequences of their poor behavior when there are men who keep bailing them out. Honestly, church is shaming men for what wrong women did.
If younger women didn’t take the delusional advice of older women who inspire them to behave like promiscuous, entitled delusional women, if younger women challenged what they heard from people/women around them, I think that younger women would have a chance for better life than the older single cat ladies with boxed wine and their single girlfriends. Remember, ladies, misery loves company and when younger women are surrounded by older single cat ladies including their single moms whispering into their ears the feminist propaganda, younger women absorb the same w*oreish mentality of older women very quickly, they start operating like those older cat ladies. It becomes unavoidable at that point. It takes consistent effort, training and time to undo that brainwashing damage and it’s not just enough to watch one challenging video or read one article to undo all of the damage that feminist propaganda caused you because it’s deeply ingrained in your brain and in our society. You will have to keep consuming this kind of content even when you resolve your issues because people around you will want to bring you back to the feminist plantation. All of these delusions that older women spread to younger women are based on lies they’ve been told to and refused to challenge when they were younger. This is how the cycle repeats itself. Don’t make the same mistake they’ve made. Start challenging yourself. There are also other means of how feminist propaganda is being spread to our society: it’s not just delusional, narcissistic and entitled women (somebody I’m working with ;-)), it’s subservient simps, emotional men ( that Red Pill is working on, right, RP guys? ;-)), it’s broken and infiltrated with feminism institutions where women take leadership and important roles (Who is working on these? ;-)).
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